The first blog post went up. A sense of weight came off the shoulders and a freedom ensued. And then it happened. The emails came through of some likes and a couple of followers and the tangible benefits began. The irony being that, at least to an extent, the first post was about finding contentment through things other than the measurable.
Let’s not be naive, the old adage of the tree falling in the forest and not making a sound is prominent here. Had I not wanted people to view the post, have the possibility to like it and then theoretically want to show that more may be desired by following, I’d have left the post on hard drive of the computer, rather than choosing to share it. Yes it feels good to have people engage with the content, but like more and more are finding on social sites, it’s not the views that matter, it’s that some may read the piece and find that it strikes a chord with them. Could it be that something in there has altered a mindset or influenced a way of thinking? Hopefully.
So what does it actually mean? Well, there is a chance that should similar figures not be achieved for this post then there could be a feeling of disappointment. But, what if that solitary post gave all that it needed to to somebody and they no longer search for that piece that could provide them with empathy or answers. Before you become concerned with a god complex, we’ve all had that light-bulb moment where something that somebody says, does or shares really hits home. There are two that stick with me the most:
“Only worry about the things you can control”
I can’t help but always go back to this mantra. We worry about everything, what people think of us, what could potentially go wrong with different, and what we can do should situations go horribly wrong. Often we’ll look to find problems where they don’t exist; allowing the positives to be overlooked. In a good relationship, we may look for the things that could cause it to go wrong. We’re often pressed for plans, milestones, checkpoints – as though anything in life, let alone relationships work by plans – rather than allowing us to enjoy the now.
“How you do one thing, is how you do every thing”
This is a much more recent idea that was shared with me and hit home. It came from fitness influence Nick Bare and of course has its ideas within the gym – skipping workouts, reps or sets will obviously have an impact on the transformations that we undergo – but outside of the gym it too rings true. How we go about and treat one thing, is our attitude to every thing. Allow ourselves to treated poorly by one collective of people? Well, then it’s no surprise when others believe they can behave in the same manner. Give a half-hearted attitude to the things in life that we don’t really want to do? Well then it won’t be too surprising if the things we love and care about, perhaps don’t quite get the same attention that they deserve.
So get about it. Do things in the right manner. Don’t worry about things beyond your control. And perhaps more importantly; enjoy the moment.
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